03 / 25 / 2016
About Louwena
Author of “An Affair NOT To Remember”
Louwena Kotzé, a former teacher for 27 years, is also the founder of a women’s Ministry, OUR FATHER’S DAUGHTERS.
She and her husband, Andrew, reside in the small seaside town of Still Bay in the Western Cape of South Africa where she teaches art.
Louwena and Andrew have been active in Marriage Ministry for the past 23 years.
An Affair Not To Remember – By Louwena (Louwtjie) Kotzé
SYNOPSIS
For the past 22 years, I have been writing bits and pieces of this book, but four months ago, I just knew that NOW is the time to write it. This personal journey started in 1995 when my husband Andrew had an affair and told me that he “wanted out” of our marriage of 19 years. My husband did not love me anymore. As Christians, the word “Divorce” was never an option before. I kept 23 journals from May 1995 till December 2003. Almost from day one, the Lord gave me Word that my husband would return. Contrary to the Word and promises I had received from God, we were divorced two years later on 20 June 1997. My lawyer and his wife who was my friend, both believed with me.
The day the Divorce went through, he threw the document on his coffee table, saying, “This is just a piece of paper; God IS still going to do a miracle!”. I had to believe for two and a half years, although circumstances said otherwise.
We did not mention her name in our house and referred to her as “Madam”. Forgiving them was the turning point in the journey.
Two weeks after I had spoken forgiveness over them, in September 1997, two years after we were separated, and three months after we were legally Divorced, Madam had another affair and broke up with my husband. God told Andrew to come back to me and fix his mess.
He did not love me; he was still pining for Madam. After a year of counselling, we got engaged in November 1998 and got married a month later in December 1998.
When I walked down the aisle, I knew, my children knew and everybody else knew that my husband did not love me. My lawyer, who had also become a Pastor in the meantime, escorted me into church and officiated at our marriage – he Divorced us, and he also wed us! (That must be a first!) It took another two years and four months before my husband could say to me that he loved me. Now, 22 years later, my husband is smitten with me, and we are very happily married. It takes hard work, but it is totally worth it. We are blessed beyond measure!
